Understanding and Dealing With Teenage Angst
By far the most turbulent teenage time is the life of an individual. Most of us wish we could blot out the memory of those awkward years, the antisocial and sometimes surly behavior, the hurt and confusion caused to the parents.
The transition period when a child is not yet a fully grown adult, can be frightening to young people and the people closest to him. Overnight, parents, teachers and those who are to be regarded as enemies. Discussions willmonosyllables. Closed doors eloquently demand privacy. Weird dressing is in vogue. The parents are confused by this stranger in their midst.
But there is consolation that teenage behavior is just a passing phase, a milestone on the road to maturity. A better understanding of what it means to save parents much grief. It should not be confused with juvenile, criminal or antisocial activities by young people who are likely to suffer from a few dedicatedPersonality disorder, or pathological processes that are raised in a family atmosphere.
Young people demand a certain degree of freedom, yet want the security that provides a home. You want as adults, even if they are treated not yet developed skills in fundamental human relationships, and often angry at the end to expose themselves and those who use their naivete. "Nobody listens to me, and nobody cares" is the feeling of playing on their minds and makes them withdrawn. Sometimes they are looking for security in peer groupsand identify with the members in dress and behavior.
Why do young people behave as they do?
• The changing body, the sudden growth spurt, gender-specific changes gives them the feeling of being completely out of control. WA Daniel says: "A young man is like a house on moving day. Obesity and acne in their distress. They believe that they are persecuted.
• Adolescent brains are still in the process of development. Through extensive studies of the brain, scientists haveto the conclusion that the development of the brain in the age of 10 to 25 years are of crucial importance. Again, a single development will not occur, and develop different parts at different times. Although the age of seven years, is the size of the brain that the adults, the gray matter of executive functions, controls, develops slowly in adolescence. The prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for coordinating the functions of the Court, thinking, emotions and behavior that is the last onemature. As a result find it difficult to make sound decisions about young people. They act quickly, without regard for the consequences. They jump lead to wrong conclusions, and take offense at innocent comments made by parents or other adults. In short, they can not get a grip on their emotions.
• The other disruptive behavior is the change in teenage sleep patterns. Do you enjoy sleeping late in the morning, and only reluctantly out of bed. Parents understand this as aForm of rebellion and the brand too lazy and uncooperative. The change in sleep patterns is important because while they sleep hormones for growth and sexual maturation are released into the bloodstream. The wake rhythm of the brain is altered in order to facilitate this process. Young people are therefore late risers. You awake at night and are awake when others want to sleep. They think nothing of turning their stereos at night, or sit at their computers until the early morning hours.Parents who are aware of this change and that they encourage their young people to slow down, restrict their activities in the evening, avoid stimulants such as caffeine, and their use of Internet in the night.
Within the brain a ring-shaped area called the limbic area of the primitive feelings of fear, anger and rage is generated. The prefrontal area is what keeps emotions under control. But since it is not fully developed at puberty, maintains the limbic area itself, this is why young people behave impulsively.Sex hormones act on the limbic area of increased aggressiveness and irritability. The distribution of serotonin falls.
As David Elkin, says the psychologist, "believes" young people in their personal fable – Nothing will happen to me. It only happens to others. "
Parents and teachers are more tolerant of antisocial behavior or rude when these physiological changes are aware of.
Ways in which teens show their independence: —
1. You maintain unhealthy habits like smoking,Experimenting with drink and drugs because they are judged to make sound judgments, or do not remember the damage that can cause these habits, capable of. Instant gratification is all that counts. Peer pressure at it incites.
2. They are prone to accidents as they indulge in drink-driving, speeding, drag racing and distraction on the roads. Death, suicide, murder are higher among young people.
3. Anxiety can develop eating disorders, schizophrenia and drug abuse,Adolescence. The sooner treatment is started, the better the chances of recovery.
4. Girls and boys to behave like Tom. Or do they suddenly become aware of their sexual power. They go to beauty aids and strange fashion. Or it can be anorexic with the idea of keeping her body to "develop, such as pastures."
5. Since sex hormones are overactive, they fall in love traps. Rape, eve teasing, pregnancies or sexually transmitted disease can land them in seriousTrouble. Possessiveness in boys may lead to controlling behavior or even violence against girlfriends. Mixing with the opposite sex, exposure to uncensored media, the lack of sex education or even a permissive family atmosphere will ensure they go to trial. In the West, 40% of girls in the age group of 13-15 years are not virgins, are 15-20% addicted to porn, and teenage pregnancies are on the rise as never before.
6. Teens have a low frustration level. They are regulatedaccording to the pleasure principle, and look for instant gratification.
7. Many young people find safety in groups. They would rather friends than at home. Experimenting with alcohol, drugs or sexual escapades will be exciting. Absenteeism from school or running away from home are some of the ways they show their independence.
8. Sometimes they want a lifestyle that support them can not afford to. So they begin to steal or to harass their parents for money.
Dealing with teenagersFear: —
– Parents should understand that the insurgency is not personal, despite their rude behavior, teenagers love their parents, and want the security of home.
– To understand why young people behave as if they are doing is important. This is only a temporary phase of about 2-3 years until they reach adulthood.
– Parents should tell their children unconditional love and discipline. Discipline should be consistent. Boundaries give children a sense of security. Discipline helpsself-reliant, and they ripen.
– Parents should set a good example, they should always be a unified front, before their children. Parental violence in the home should be undisputed. The new-age formula of treating children on an equal footing is dangerous. There can be no equality between parents and children. This is only about negative impacts. The children begin to believe that everything is up for negotiation. Parents should insist on good behavior. They should make theirYoung people aware of societal violence, and she teaches sexual propriety and the dangers of unprotected sex.
– There should be openness in discussing serious issues such as good behavior and the abuse of freedom. Subjects should tactfully introduced, so confident the teenager will feel discussing their problems, knowing that his parents have his best interests at heart.
– The doors of communication should always remain open. Listening is the teenagers and their problems, theimportant part of communication. Some parents try to superimpose their unfulfilled dreams of their children and force them to do what they do not want. This leads to rebel.
– Lately, many parents have begun spying on their children, and feel perfectly entitled. They have their rooms search or scan their journals, or even secretly follow them to see if they are in drugs, alcohol, or misconduct with the opposite sex. Some parents even employ privateDetectives. It is possible that this could backfire will permanently damage the parent-child relationship. John Stott believes that love, "but firm confrontation is a better approach than espionage."
– Socialization with peer groups can be healthy and safe. Teens need to exchange information and experience, and know that there are others who go with similar changes. However, the parents must keep an eye on the kind of friends they keep up with mixing, and the activities they areinvolved so that they can not abuse their freedom.
Adolescence is a difficult phase in the life of an individual. Due to many changes – physical, emotional, sexual – there is a growing fear of the unknown. Young people need our encouragement and empathy.
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